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This week in himekaji outfits featured unintentionally a lot of pink!

Monday

No outfit because I got my COVID-19 booster shot the day before and I was feeling a bit crappy on Monday.

Tuesday

Blouse: Evelyn Long Sleeve Tie Blouse
Dress: Pink V One Piece
Shoes: Lodispotto Frill Tulle Short Boots
Purse: Liz Lisa String Heart Bag

Though I was still feeling kind of off on Tuesday, I decided to dress up as a way to make myself feel better. There's something putting in the effort to look nice that makes me feel better even when I'm sick! I thought this coordinate was very elegant and classy with the dusty pink tones.

Wednesday

No outfit because of the COVID booster shot making me feel so sick!

Thursday

Earrings: Honey Mignon Rose Bouquet Earrings
Dress: Liz Lisa Sleeping Princess One Piece
Shoes: Liz Lisa Lace-Up Stretch Knee High Boots

Since I was feeling better from the day before, I wanted to dress up with my new Liz Lisa purchases! I found the pink OP of the 2018 web exclusive Sleeping Princess print secondhand and I was so excited to find one of my dream dresses online. It's a rush when you can find a piece you've been wanting forever! I paired it with my new black boots just as a way to create a different look with a touch of black.

Friday

Top: Liz Lisa Lace Ribbon Top
Bottoms: Liz Lisa Suspender Short Pants
Shoes: Liz Lisa High Cut Frill Sneakers

It was a rainy Friday so I wanted to wear something cute to pair with my sneakers. I ordered these sneakers secondhand as I've always adored them since release, but they're a size too small on me so I'm trying all I can to break them in and get them to fit. Wish me luck!!

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My heart races, my breathing becomes difficult, and my thoughts spiral out of control. I'm lost in a state of panic and fear. I'm being stopped by strangers, telling me that I look beautiful, asking where I get my clothes, but all I want to do is cry or scream or hide.

Since I was young, I suffered from anxiety and depression. I live my life coping with it every day. Some days are easier than others. Some days, I stare at my himekaji wardrobe and wish I had the energy to get dressed. They hang in my closet, wanting to be worn and admired, but I simply can't bear the thought of leaving the house or even getting out of bed.

On days when I'm able to cope better, dressing in himekaji makes me feel beautiful. I feel like a princess, ready to make her presence known while enjoying life. Those days, I can enjoy the process and look in the mirror feeling beautiful. Sometimes, I even feel bold enough to post my coordinate online for the world to see. Even on those days, the anxiety and depression can come creeping back in without warning. It takes one negative comment on Instagram, one strange look, one inappropriate comment from a man to send me down a spiral.

Leaving Social Media

It has taken me some time to understand how to continue living my life as a himekaji princess while still dealing with my mental illness. One major change has been to set boundaries on how I publicly interact with the world. It is a struggle, but for my own mental health, I cannot post my coordinates on social media anymore. For years, I desperately sought validation from social media to fill the void in myself. I never loved myself, I never thought I was enough. I wanted to find that with likes and followers online, but even when I reached a number that would be considered large by others, it was never enough. I was never validated enough. If anything, it brought more negative attention than the positive I thought it would. The larger my follow count got, the more frequent I would receive horrible comments.

I do not have a thick skin and I am now accepting that I can't handle how toxic the internet can be. Being told I'm ugly, my nose is crooked, my teeth are crooked, I'm using too many filters, I look old, or whatever the troll of the day feels like saying is demoralizing. I can try and tell myself they're just sad people looking to beat me down for their own lack of happiness, but it doesn't make a difference. I start believing their lies. I start believing that I am ugly because they say I am. I wasn't built for scrutiny by people I've never met in person. I can't handle when someone tears me apart from limb to limb based on a post on Instagram.

Now, I do not post on social media. I do not check social media. As much as I desperately want to, I can't. I've tried for years now. I've done everything I can by curating my feeds, setting my profile to private, turning off comments on my posts, but I can't escape the destruction caused on my mental health. My only source of connection to the community which I still enjoy is through Discord groups and one-off chats outside of social media.

Dressing Up For No One But Me

The energy to take pictures of my coordinates is gone. Before, needing to have validation online was what gave me life. I would setup these elaborate photo shoots, putting on my best, fake smile. I would hate every inch of myself in those photos, editing my features into oblivion because I wasn't perfect enough. Let's fix that nose, whiten my teeth, hide those under eye bags, remove those smile lines, enhance my eyes. I wasn't good enough as myself. I had to be more beautiful to be loved I thought and to be loved was to get likes.

It was a struggle the first few times I decided to dress up for myself and not immediately take a picture to post online. There is nothing wrong with doing so, but my mental health was dependent on everyone's opinions of me. Releasing myself from that need has been extremely challenging. My own opinion and perception of myself is very low, but it is getting better. While I have days where I stare at the mirror and think of every horrible thought about myself, I have been getting more days of joy. More days where I dress up and look at myself, feeling beautiful on my own.

Moving Forward

I don't know what my mental health will be like tomorrow or the next day. I take it day by day. I prioritize my self-care and self-love. My himekaji life is a part of that, but to keep it private is still an adjustment. To keep this part of my life to myself and to learn how to love myself is hard. I am getting there, better and better each day even with setbacks. My anxiety medication will be with me for awhile and I'm grateful to have the support of a wonderful therapist who understands me. Not everyone has these opportunities to take care of themselves and I am extremely blessed. With one day at a time, I will remind myself of who I am and why I love myself.

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There was always a part of me growing up that desired to stand out. I wanted to be expressive in the way I dressed, but felt stifled by societal pressures and family influences. My fashion style changed over the years from tomboy to goth and more. I was always trying to find myself, but nothing ever felt right until I learned about himekaji.

Himekaji Origins

In 2017, I was feeling like I wanted to dress in more exciting and expressive ways. I was very influenced by Japanese culture and adored the styles seen in Harajuku street shots. For most of that year, I stuck to wearing what I would consider jfashion "starter" items: colorful circle skirts, cat stockings, frilly crop tops. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that style, but I felt like I was missing something. I just didn't feel beautiful. I felt like my skinny, lanky body just didn't look right in those clothes and it was causing body image issues for me.

Then, I stumbled upon this Liz Lisa dress on Depop and I instantly fell in love. The pattern, the waist details, everything about it spoke to me. I ended up purchasing the dress and a pair of matching shoes so I could easily create my first coordinate. I remember feeling so beautiful in this picture when I first put it all on. From there, I fell down the rabbit hole of himekaji, particularly obsessing over Liz Lisa.

Liz Lisa Otaku

In October of 2017, I went to Japan for the first time ever. We spent two weeks exploring Tokyo with a good friend of mine and I knew my prime destination was to visit the flagship Liz Lisa store on Takeshita Dori. I stepped in feeling like I was home. The beautiful floral decorations, the coordinates the shop staff were wearing, everything made me feel like I belonged. I remember going upstairs to the outlet floor and raiding the place of everything that looked cute, filing up multiple shopping bags. I still have the receipt from my first shopping trip there in my passport as a keepsake because it brings me joy to think of those memories at the store (especially since it's closed now).

Liz Lisa was my introduction to himekaji and I only ever bought from that brand for a long time. I still primarily buy from Liz Lisa, but I didn't really know of other stores in Japan that had the same style. I just fell in love with what it meant to be a a Liz Lisa girl. I was so inspired by the shop staff and the others online who wore the fashion.

Instagram Obsession

I decided to create my fashion Instagram account not too long after getting into himekaji. I desperately wanted to be a Liz Lisa model so badly. I practically forced my fiance (only my boyfriend of a few years at the time) to photograph me in several outfits every weekend. I would throw all my money at new releases, jewelry, circle lenses, and more without discretion.

I was secretly very miserable. Behind the smiles, the nice wardrobe, and daily posts, I was unhappy. I was putting all this pressure on myself to look perfect, to be Instagram famous. I would spend far too long photoshopping every single feature I thought made me ugly, eventually heavily relying on beauty filters. Though I mostly received amazing compliments and was often featured on Liz Lisa's Instagram, I hyper-fixated on the negative comments I would receive. Being told by random trolls that I'm too skinny, my nose is crooked, my head is too big, my face is too photoshopped, my face is not photoshopped enough, it was too much.

The Journey Forward

After letting go of social media and my perfectionist instincts, I've been able to enjoy the fashion more than ever. At work, I'm able to dress as I please so I'm able to wear himekaji on a near-daily basis. I don't feel the need to take photos of my coordinates for the world to critique because I truly am dressing up for myself. Getting to wear this fashion for myself and only myself is extremely empowering. I focus on buying pieces that I know I will love, whether they've been on my wishlist for a long time or really catch my eye as a new release. I also shop from a variety of stores but Liz Lisa will always stay my main love.

As I will be turning 30 next year, I don't plan on quitting this fashion anytime soon. I'm very privileged to have a young-looking face thanks to genetics and my extensive skincare routine. I think women in their 30s are often pressured not to enjoy fashion styles that are targeted towards women in their 20s, but you know, fuck them. Excuse my language, but I'm going to dress how I want for as long as I want. If I want to be a princess in my 30s, I'm going to be a princess and there's no one that can tell me otherwise.

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Ryosangata (量産型) is a term that means "mass production" and is often used in a derogatory manner towards young Japanese women who dress alike.

The term first came about in a 2013 article titled 量産型女子大生 (Ryousangata joshi daisei) which means the mass production of female university students. In the article, the author commented on how "creepy" it was to see girls dressing the same, wearing their hairstyles the same, essentially looking like clones of each other. Its usage continued in the Japanese lexicon, becoming a way for society to look down upon young girls.

But what is wrong with wanting to be trendy? What is wrong with girls wanting to unite with other girls over a shared love of beauty? Before diving into these questions, let's talk about what makes a Ryosangata girl.

Ryosangata Style & Culture

Makeup

Source: Fukuse Yuuri

Makeup is an essential part of the Ryosangata style with an emphasis on pale skin and large eyes. While the makeup looks change with new trends, key characteristics include:

  • Enlarging circle lenses usually in brown, pink, or grey
  • Pink, red, or brown eyeshadow around the eye, especially on the lower lash line
  • Pink blush focused on the sides of the face and underneath the eyes

The goal of a Ryosangata makeup look is to look youthful and dreamy, but it can be achieved in many ways and mixed with different makeup trends from other fashion substyles like Menhera.

Hair

Hairstyles can vary and be reflective of the day's outfit. In Japanese, the term Hair Arrange (ヘアアレンジ) is used online to describe intricate and beautiful hairstyles with lots of accessories and complicated patterns. Some modern trends include:

  • Light brown hair is common, though other colors such as pink or blonde are also popular
  • Hair ribbons throughout the hair or in focal points
  • Fluffy fringe or hime bangs

Nonetheless, hair arranges can be an art form with expressions of creativity and beauty with no set standard.

Fashion

Source: Dear My Love

As the style is becoming more popular, several different brands are creating pieces to suit the Ryosangata look. Though generally, girls of the style will adapt to that year's fashion trends, some common elements of their outfits often include:

  • Dusty pink colors mixed with black, light grey, or white
  • Black platform shoes are extremely common, but black or dusty pink heels are also popular
  • Solid colors or checkered prints

Popular brands that carry Ryosangata style clothes include Dear My Love, MA*RS, and Rojita but brands from other substyles like Liz Lisa will often carry pieces that suit Ryosangata.

Lifestyle

Source: Potaku Cosme

The life of a Ryosangata girl is full of fun and fashion! Many in the style are college-aged or just starting out in the working world, so they have disposable income and free time. They will often get together in their best outfits, take purikura photos together, enjoy desserts at a cafe, shop at their favorite stores, or bond over their shared interests.

Many Ryosangata girls are also otakus. They proudly display their love for anime, idols, Sanrio mascots and so much more under the term Ryosangata Otaku (量産型オタク). You will often see them posting on Twitter and Instagram showcasing their otaku interests without shame. Though they may dress alike in a friend group, they also have their own individual personalities and interests that coincide with the cute atmosphere of Ryosangata style.

Misogyny of Policing Young Women

The degrading usage of Ryosangata towards young women reflects a patriarchal society that does not allow girls to be girls. Across many countries, femininity is seen as weak. It is seen as vain for a woman to be interested in fashion, beauty, makeup, and everything else specifically marketed for them. Companies push these trends on young women to play at their built-in fears of aging. In the eyes of many, when a woman is seen as "past her prime" and not youthful anymore, she is deemed "useless" because of how much value society has put on her beauty.

But if society is the problem since they push these trends, then why are these young women the bearers of these attacks? Why is it not okay for them to enjoy fashion and beauty, but if a group of men is seen wearing similar styles to each other, no one bats an eye?

Japan specifically is a conservative country like most of Asia and has stricter roles on women than many western countries (though western countries are no better in many regards). Breaking the norm can be more taboo than many realize, which in turn can cause social isolation for these young women. It is often a lose-lose situation for them as they can either continue to dress in Ryosangata style but be seen through a negative lens by some or they can conform to societal expectations but not feel able to truly express themselves individually. As Japan's group-focused society can be extremely beneficial to the collective, it can also be harmful to those who want to use fashion and/or beauty to express themselves to the point where they receive online ridicule.

Fighting Back

As early as 2017, Ryosangata began to shed its negative image. Though the term still carries its derogatory origins, many are embracing the title. Thousands of selfies and coordinate photos by Ryosangata girls flood social media, showcasing their look for the day, the purikura photos they took with their friends, or what idol they're supporting at their live show.

In a poll of 230 female students at Hiroshima University, 72.5% had neutral feelings on the style, neither disliking or liking it. 40% of the respondents identified as wearing the style and 70% of them reported feeling very satisfied in the style.

Though brands are often exploiting this newfound popularity for Ryosangata, young women are reclaiming the stereotype and using it to express themselves. Even when posting selfies or purikura photos online, these women have control of their image. They are the ones putting in the effort to be unique and stand out amongst the conventional norms of Japanese society. They are prioritizing enjoy life, spending time with their friends, and supporting the hobbies they love. It can be very empowering to care for yourself in this way without completely succumbing to the needs of the group over yourself.

With Ryosangata becoming a popular style internationally, I believe others will start recognizing the positive aspects of the style. Hopefully soon, the derogatory-nature of the term will be gone and we can encourage young women to embrace their individuality.

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This week, yamikawa_109 on Instagram posted an interesting graphic created by @taka_hime to explain the difference between Ryosangata and Jirai. Both styles are often confused with each other, so these images are meant to be used as a way to distinguish the two styles and how girls wear the two fashions.

Ryosangata Girl and Jirai Girl
Which one are you?
Are you Ryosangata? Jirai? Checklist

On the left is the Ryosangata girl. The style generally includes:

  • Royal brown hair
  • Focus is on hair and makeup
  • Blouses with collars
  • Mainly wearing pink
  • Frills
  • Ribbons
  • White socks
  • Loafers

On the right is the Jirai girl. The style generally includes:

  • Black hair or flashy hair
  • Piercings
  • Wearing all black
  • A lot of belts
  • Rings
  • Fishnet tights
  • Chunky platform shoes
Ryosangata girl

The main color of a Ryosangata girl is pink and their must-have items often include frills, ribbons, and heart motifs. They often curl the ends of their bangs and mix the bangs into the forehead. Braided hair arrangements and low twintails are key! Making the style girly with plenty of pearls and ribbons.

Popular brands:

Jirai Girl

The main color of a Jirai girl is black and their accessories are men's like in the way of how chunky they are. Their key hairstyle is a long and straight look with straight-cut bangs. If they have color in their hair or earrings they want to show off, doing a half twin ponytail using a little hair is recommended.

Popular brands:

It was very fun to translate these graphics and learn more about the difference between the two styles. Do any of you dress in those styles? Let me know in the comments below!

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